First Things First
Here’s what can happen. You contact us because you want to sink your teeth into some hands-on life coaching. In the course of our conversation, we discover you have a number of personal frustrations due to relational difficulties with your spouse. Your desire to jump-start your career is legitimate but you face obstacles with your life partner that are corrupting the process. Let’s be honest. These must be dealt with first.

The Bible talks about a man’s prayers being hindered because of neglecting his wife’s needs. Since the principle of sowing and reaping is not gender specific, there’s a good chance that precept from 1st Peter 3:7 works for a wife’s prayers as well. Adjustments may have to be made in your marriage to ensure the quality of life in your home so you can be more productive in your art or ministry. Don’t feel as if you can skip this part to get to the meat of “artist development” or “ministry fulfillment.”

Killing Two Birds
One of the greatest frustrations of life is having domestic problems that detract you from greater productivity or derail you altogether. Even movie stars and millionaires are miserable when their marriages go bad. The difference between you and them is that you are instructed by scripture, and should be committed to refining your marriage into a reflection of God’s kingdom. It’s not likely you’ve ever heard of a happy divorce, especially when children are involved. Divorce can be completely demoralizing. It can damage your career, your ministry, your economic wellbeing, your effectiveness in the world around you.

If you don’t get this part of your life on a smooth track pretty quickly, it’s going to be tough sledding in all other spiritual or material pursuits. You may be reading this right now because you or someone you know is having serious marital difficulties and needs help. We want to help if we can. Getting your interpersonal relationships in order is the prerequisite for entering into a coaching experience that pays significant dividends. Don’t regard counseling as an annoyance to be endured but as an opportunity to establish your work with double effectiveness.

Welcome the counseling process as the initial stages of personal coaching. The main difference in approach is that counseling will involve our giving you more advice than if we were coaching you. Much coaching is listening carefully, asking the right questions, and allowing you to reach your own conclusions. Counseling is our giving you some down-to-earth opinions about what it’s going to take to bring peace and harmony into your home. But please take heart. We’re experienced marriage counselors, have conducted over a hundred marriage seminars and workshops, have written a book on the subject and have been happily married over 32 years. Having overcome violence and infidelity, divorce and remarriage, blended family issues, and extreme corruption in our years together before Christ, we know that there’s nothing in life that expresses the kingdom better than a good marriage.

Most coaches don’t want to have to deal with your marriage problems and quite frankly it would be easier for us if we didn’t have to either. But we’re also realistic enough to know that what can be holding you back from fulfilling your call are relational challenges with the one who should mean more to you in this life than anyone else except the Lord himself. Our hope is that we can cut to the chase and sort out your marriage difficulties quickly. Much of that depends on you. Don’t kid yourself or try to fool us. We have an instinct that tells us if you’re doing that. The proof is in the pudding. We can always talk to your mate to get both sides of the story. Your spouse can be a direct reflection of your spiritual condition.

There’s Nothing You’ve Done
Don’t feel ashamed of your sins and shortcomings. If you’ve read our credentials you’ll see there is probably nothing you’ve ever done in your life that one or both of us hasn’t lived through ourselves. Not much surprises or shocks us. We are past masters at the down side. Our tutor has been the word of God and the school of reality and real life, having lived on both sides of the fence. We know what’s going on. And we want to help.

First, we ask you to sincerely try to find help within your home church. We in no way want to usurp the authority of the local church or in any way be counterproductive to it and will always defer to it. Chances are good a pastoral leader will be able to help you or there may be provision within your local body for marriage counseling. Look there first. It may even be a service that is free for the asking. If marriage counseling is offered at your church, explore that option first.

If for whatever reason you prefer to try what we have to offer, feel free to contact us now. Your situation will remain confidential between you and us. Our service is free as long as we both feel our time together is fruitful and profitable to you.